I am a huge fan of the teachings of Abraham as channeled by Esther Hicks. These teachings just always feel so right to me. My soul says "Yes!" when I hear these thoughts.
"We want you to understand that when you ask for something, everything that is necessary for the fulfillment of this that you have asked for is being summoned to it. All cooperative components -- so when you ask for a lover, a lover of a certain stature, a lover of a certain look, a lover of a certain attitude, a lover of a certain financial condition, a lover of a certain love, a lover -- When you ask for a lover, that lover is there, that lover is summoned and every component that you've asked for has been summoned to this Vortex and it is there. All cooperative components have been summoned. The question that this workshop wants to ask and wants to help you answer is 'Are you a cooperative component? Or are you an onery hold out?"